• enbyecho@lemmy.world
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    10 hours ago

    I’ve read everything you’ve written and it’s all very immature, self-centered, abdication of responsibility paired with conservative level mental gymnastics.

    Explain to me how that’s immature. Explain to me how saying that actually no, I don’t find such talk offensive and neither do my friends is self-centered? Explain to me how something you apparently don’t understand but which is a very real known and well-established phenomena equates to “mental gymnastics”.

    You do in fact make demands on me. You demand I submit to your idea of what’s right. You demand that I acknowledge that the claims of these jokes being bigoted are correct. I don’t and I won’t. Worse, you make exactly zero effort to understand why I feel my perspective has legitimacy. You want mental gymnastics? Look no further.

    That’s pretty fucked up dude.

    Good bye.

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      10 hours ago

      I’m on phone now so I’ll tone down the length.

      Explain to me how that’s immature

      Sure, will do. It can be captured in just this reply.

      I don’t find such talk offensive and neither do my friends

      This is it in a nutshell. Your anecdote does not capture the full experience of people even in your own community (self centered). I’ve provided the perspective of why it’s offensive and you’ve attempted to shout me down (immature). And even with some regular “no you” responses (also immature).

      You do in fact make demands of me

      Then your reading comprehension sucks. I stated multiple times (at least once explicitly) that you’re free to be a shit bag. I did not (and at this point do not) expect you to change your behavior.

      You make exactly zero effort to understand why I feel my perspective has legitimacy

      Was sounding out what your perspective implies about you as a person, while also reflecting on my own troubles with this exact issue, too subtle for you?

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        10 hours ago

        Your anecdote does not capture the full experience of people even in your own community (self centered).

        And neither do your comments. What part of having a discussion to share perspectives is unclear to you?

        I stated multiple times (at least once explicitly) that you’re free to be a shit bag.

        And you make a judgement in doing so. Ie. a demand to not be a “shit bag”.

        You didn’t “sound out my perspective”. You outright denied it’s validity without even understanding what it was. And all because I didn’t fit into your definition -inherently narrow - of the full experience of people.

        I’m going to ignore you now. I’m sure you are not a bad person in general but in this discussion you are arrogant, narrow-minded and incapable of listening.

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          10 hours ago

          Yeah, it doesn’t, but I wasn’t rejecting an offered perspective outright. I’ve been judging the hell out of it, but I understood it.

          You haven’t shared a perspective. It’s all “but I don’t wanna”. While badly attempting to refute me.

          I judged you (severely and negatively) but I don’t have the ability or interest in changing you. Again, I’m saying why a subset of people will be offended by you. If you want to alienate people, feel free.

          Your reading comprehension still sucks. I don’t know you either and I’m comfortable assuming we would not be friends. I hope people treat you as well as you treat them.