I transitioned ages ago and I’m recently out of a long term relationship. I’ve been trying to get back into dating, but even when I specify “masc for masc” all of the gay guys I meet are too feminine for my taste. I’ve been feeling a bit doomed, even sometimes questioning if I should have transitioned in the first place because it would be so easy to find an ideal partner if I hadn’t, but the idea of being anyone but my true self is preposterous. Can any other guys relate to this? Any dating tips or specific dating app recommendations?
USA if it helps.
Somehow every man I’ve dated is more fem than me, I’m fairly androgynous in presentation and manner. And same, I will specify I’m only interested in masculine folk, only to have some very feminine people reach out. I sometimes suspect people think “I have a penis, so I’m masculine”, and stop thinking there.
Online dating also seems to have fallen into a dumpster a few years ago. Everyone hates this advice, especially me, but it’s worth it to engage with people in the hobbies you’re interested in.