I transitioned ages ago and I’m recently out of a long term relationship. I’ve been trying to get back into dating, but even when I specify “masc for masc” all of the gay guys I meet are too feminine for my taste. I’ve been feeling a bit doomed, even sometimes questioning if I should have transitioned in the first place because it would be so easy to find an ideal partner if I hadn’t, but the idea of being anyone but my true self is preposterous. Can any other guys relate to this? Any dating tips or specific dating app recommendations?
USA if it helps.
Dating can just be rough, especially if you have specific criteria for a partner. I’d say just keep looking and try to remember that you don’t need a partner. Sometimes it can suck being alone, but you need to learn to embrace those moments as well. Focus on being a happy you, and eventually you’ll meet someone. Get involved in activities; find a hobby and then find a group that engages in that hobby. Don’t rely entirely on online dating services, and if you are using them, don’t be afraid to be explicit and specific with what you are looking for. It will bring the match rate way, way down, but better that than wasting your own time with people that wouldn’t work out.
To add to this, make more friends. That can help fill the loneliness void.