• solsangraal@lemmy.zip
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    25 days ago

    it’s stressful, spending a lifetime pretending to not be as sensitive as a de-scrotum’d testicle

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      25 days ago

      Maybe I’m just slow, but I don’t get the gist of your remark. You taking a jab at men denying their sensitivity or at men being too sensitive? The two things are sometimes two sides of the same coin I guess.

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        24 days ago

        I think they’re saying they have to hide sensitivity with some colorful imagery to describe being very sensitive

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        24 days ago

        men denying their sensitivity

        mostly this, but

        men being too sensitive?

        for too many men apparently any amount of sensitivity is too much

        but from my experience, it’s the guys who are most obsessed with how their manliness is perceived by the rest of the world who are the most sensitive of all. and they’re also the most miserable

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        24 days ago

        I read it a nut punch to thise who deny any sensitivity, as they are more sensitive than a wind vane.

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      To clarify a bit, the group is a subset of young men and they arent pretending. Its a matter of how different groups express the symptoms of their disorder. Because a man does not express his depression in a typical way does not mean he is pretending not to be depressed. The article even mentions a retrospective study that looked 3000 men who killed themselves and 60% of those men went to therapy but the issue is that this group presents atypical, externalizing depressive symptoms which can lead to them not being recognized by conventional diagnostic instruments". Therapy is not a one size fits all remedy and its common that a tailored approach is required and instruments be updated.

      We dont blame or diminish mentally ill people for being mentally ill. Its that simple.

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      25 days ago

      So your response to an article about how men don’t talk about their feelings is “Ha Ha men are just sensitive snowflakes”?

      I wonder why men don’t talk about their feelings more 🤔🤔

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        25 days ago

        do you always just make up completely different meanings for the things you read? or only when it’s something about men being sensitive and trying to pretend not to be?

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            24 days ago

            he tried to change my point from “it’s stressful to try and act all invincible tough guy all the time” into some juvenile disparaging insult about all men being ‘snowflakes’

            it’s a common thing for people to get offended by a comment and then try to attack some point that was never stated in the comment. so common that even saying “strawman” anymore is almost a cliche

            as a man, i can tell you it is possible to re-examine those things that cause you to get upset–and when you take the time to do it, you’ll realize that 99% of the things men get butthurt about a) don’t matter in the slightest; and b) aren’t going to be changed by anyone’s huffing and puffing about it, but will more likely just get worse

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        Hey, I think some nuance was lost over the imperfect medium of text. Here’s what OP is getting at—when someone ignores their emotions, they don’t just go away. Emotions are just signals from the body about what is good for it and what is bad for it. Emotions are the body telling someone what it needs. If emotions are ignored, then the body isn’t getting what it needs, so it sends stronger signals. When I don’t eat, I get hungrier (until I start starving and my body begins eating itself, anyways). When I don’t tend to an injury, it hurts more. When I’m resentful and I don’t do anything about my feelings of resentment, those feelings grow in strength and force.

        Any person who has been told by society that they should disregard their emotions will have a body which is screaming its discontent at them. I’m a man and I was raised to hide and repress my feelings (although I was never really into extreme toxic masculinity). It was fucking agonizing, and I became so, so sensitive to things. It took years of therapy for me to learn that the body keeps the score and that I had to feel and express my feelings, just like I had to eat or bandage a cut.

        Anyone who has suffered from emotional self-neglect will be sensitive. Western society pushes men to neglect themselves, so those men will be sensitive. That’s all OP meant. Men who accept their emotions for what they are and tend to them will be much less sensitive and will almost certainly be happier people.

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          24 days ago

          Honestly, it’s the

          as a de-scrotum’d testicle

          part that throws me. Makes it sound like they are comparing having normal human emotions to being as overly sensitive as a bare, unprotected testicle.

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            Yeah, it’s not (in my opinion) the best way to get the idea across. I read that and immediately thought of how it felt when I was emotionally repressed. To me, a de-scrotumed testicle sounds about right, because even the softest and most gentle care was still rough and painful. I can see how someone could read something much less kind in that phrase, however.

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              I had to re-read your original comment to fully get your point, but I hear what you’re saying now.

              (Or maybe I just need an excuse to dip out of this thread and try to bleach the image of a de-scrotum’d testicle from my brain)