• guyrocket@kbin.social
    46·
    1 year ago

    Sadly, the older I get the more I see just how badly people suck…including me. I really need to lower my standards.

    • ChocoboRocket@lemmy.world
      8·
      1 year ago

      At this point I’m not sure if it’s undiagnosed adhd that makes me socially isolate, or if it’s genuinely better just chilling with my wife and her family who are pretty rad compared to everyone else I meet.

      • Vijay Prema@fosstodon.org
        1·
        1 year ago

        There’s a tendency to think social isolation is bad or think something is wrong with us for doing it. IMO most people who go out and party all the time are also just “socially isolating”, by putting up a front, drinking etc, with no real deep connection. No vulnerability and openness. If you have deep relationship with family you are probably better off.

        Your wisdom could be telling you not to waste your time going out with shallow folks. Having 1 or 2 deep friends is nice.

    • somnuz@lemm.ee
      81·
      1 year ago

      Obviously, I know absolutely nothing about you, and if your standards are some over the top expectations or demands then you should stop calling them standards… BUT if your standards are healthy boundaries and some basic safety precautions then by any means try not to mess with them even when the situation is rough — this can burn for a looong time…

    • meyotch@slrpnk.netEnglish
      37·
      1 year ago

      Weirdo!

      But seriously that’s the way it really is. I think we need neighbors as badly as friends these days. It’s those casual second order relationships that contribute to a feeling of community.

      • 0x4E4F@lemmy.rollenspiel.monsterEnglish
        17·
        1 year ago

        Completely agree. I haven’t had a beer with a neighbour since I moved to my new appartment. We chit chat in the elevator with some of them, but now I’m just waiting for them to find out I’m in IT and electronics, so I could invite them over to fix whatever 😁.

        Hey, it’s practically begging, I know, but I actually don’t have any more friends. A few died in car accidents, some from heart attacks, some in the pandemic and the rest are abroad 🤷.

      • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
        8·
        1 year ago

        Full agreement and I think it’s one of the biggest reasons why I need to be involved in communities. “I know you, I like you, but I don’t have the time or energy to hit you up just to chat on purpose, if circumstances change we may become friends” is a really nice relationship to have a lot of.

        • meyotch@slrpnk.netEnglish
          1·
          1 year ago

          Being able to say “My man!” to the mailman and have that be that is strangely undervalued. The interaction is positive even if mostly insignificant and that gives a little boost of social confidence.

      • explodicle@local106.comEnglish
        3·
        1 year ago

        I realize this is maybe an excuse but it’s hard to be friends with my neighbors after learning that they wouldn’t wear a mask to save a life.

    • Sharkwellington@lemmy.one
      7·
      1 year ago

      My brain works a lot like a cat. Loudly meow about how badly I need attention, for the first little bit it’s the best thing ever, then I hit a moment where I yell STOP and run away.

  • PunchingBag@lemmy.world
    12·
    1 year ago

    EDIT; I forgot this was the internet when I wrote this comment. Hopefully editing helps remove it more thoroughly.

  • Peruvia
    7·
    1 year ago

    I don’t need friends, they dissapoint me
    strikes pose

    • meyotch@slrpnk.netEnglish
      1·
      1 year ago

      Right, the challenge in either case is to get people to pay attention first. Society is dying from indifference not malice.