- cross-posted to:
- feminism@beehaw.org
- cross-posted to:
- feminism@beehaw.org
In the hours following former President Donald Trump’s election victory, Google searches related to 4B — a fringe South Korean feminist movement that made a name for itself in the mid to late 2010s — surged in the United States.
I have genitofemoral neuropathy. I’m not satisfying any women anytime soon. lol
Fair observation though.
Hey unrelated and probably a little invasive of me, but just wanted to say you definitely can still enjoy sex with women even if you aren’t using your penis. Oral is often enough for many women, along with dildos, kissing, and breast stimulation. Please don’t feel like you can’t have a sexual relationship just because of that, it is possible (and is the norm for many lesbian couples).
There are also electrical prostate stimulators (based on the medical device that does the same thing) that will induce orgasm. Idk if that would work with your neuropathy or if it would make it worse etc but those are a thing. I will warn you that all electrical exposure including TENS units increase your risk of developing ALS later in life though, it’s why I retired estim toys from my practice. However, up to you. A prostate shock every now and then may be worth the increased risk to you.
I don’t mind talking about it. As of now, a moderate degree of arousal is too painful to be worthwhile, so masturbation and oral are out.
The sympathetic muscular response to the pain causes persistent contraction of the lower abdominal and pelvic muscles, leaving them way too tight. I’ve been working with PT to stretch and relax them, but the progress has been slow. I can finally use a Valium suppository without horrible pain from application, so anal play is out until I can control my pelvic floor muscles again.
I appreciate the estim idea! Who knows. I’ve been so surprised by what hurts and what doesn’t since my injury that I couldn’t predict how that would work. I’ll give it a try. Thanks!