By that I mean basically unexpected oases in your life where and by whom you feel nurtured and restored and just safe in the moment?
For me, it was a woman at work who became like a mother to me and I’ll think a bit more about physical spaces but that is a very important aspect also
Try not to say your home space cuz that should be a given. Think outside the crib
When my cat headbutts me. I love that little guy
I came across a cat while riding my bike. I pstpstpsted at it for like five minutes, and it kept pretending not to be interested. Then, out of nowhere, it just walked up to me - didn’t even stop to sniff, just went straight in for a headbutt and demanded petting.
I gave him a full deep-tissue massage, and he loved it, as if no one had ever petted him before. I don’t think I’ve ever met a cat that friendly.
Respect the deep-tissue massage
The shower. Sometimes I just sit down in the tub and let life roll away in heated bliss
Oh man. That with a nice, cold drink. Often a beer or cocktail. The dichotomy is glorious.
Sweet, sweet, naked, hot bliss.
This guy showers!
Have you tried a “shower orange”? Can’t recommend it enough.
shower orange
Great offer particularly for a trying time
Falling backwards into a soft snowbank in full winter gear and basically falling asleep while snowflakes drift down, melting on my face but otherwise slowly covering the rest of me. Absolute perfection.
Thanks op, it’s nice to think about this stuff
Walking the streets and sleeping rough a couple of days after arriving in Amsterdam, tired and hungry, a Portuguese guy with almost nothing himself invited me to his squatted place and cooked patato and onion soup and offered me a glass of port and a place to rest. I still hold this memory close.
Lovely!
Nordic spas. Going from dry saunas to cold pools to warming up again in hot tubs or wet saunas and doing it over and over again… Ahhhhhhh
Great question and the fairy fountain angle is a neat way of asking it.
Climbing gym, I roll up high as fuck and put my headphones in and go hard for like an hour or two. When I’m done it’s the absolute best feeling especially when I finish a project route or just do something cool.
Unfortunately all the gyms in my area are closed because of hurricane Helene so I haven’t been able to go for a while.
I don’t know Eric Andre lived on the eastern seaboard
I live on an island in the Atlantic. There’s this beach cottage nestled in the dunes along the southern shore, and it’s been there for over a hundred years. The wealthy family that owns it no longer lives on the island, but they love the space and don’t want it to fall into ruin so they’ve had a series of caretakers for the past thirty years or so. The position is unpaid, BUT it comes with the freedom to use the property year-round. I was the caretaker for fifteen years, and a few years back passed the title down to a friend (so I can still visit.) It’s one of the most magical places on Earth, and every time I’m there it’s like my health and mana bars get refilled.
Beaches. Specifically where the ocean is hardcore and there’s huge rocks that the waves crash against. There’s this deep sort of infrasound that comes out of the big waves when they meet the big rocks and it’s just like heaven.
My dream is to travel to Nazaré, Portugal and watch the waves there. Bliss. Almighty powerful bliss.
infrasound
Thanks for that word
Western North Carolina 😭
Hoping to get back there soon and bring my tourism $$ with me when they are ready. The mountains are my happy place and make me feel like a kid again.
Also, bike riding (when I’m not in a conflict with cars) is giving me a lot of joy. Especially when there are other bikers about.
Folks down there could use that money right now, they’re still in rough shape from the hurricane. :/
Yeah. 😢 If anyone feels like donating, here are a few orgs that could use the cash:
South Toe VFD: https://www.gofundme.com/f/donate-to-south-toe-fire-depts-hurricane-efforts
Mountain Community Health Partnership: https://www.mchp.care/
Yancey County Helene recovery venmo: https://account.venmo.com/u/YanceyCountyGovt-HeleneRelief?catchAll=u&catchAll=YanceyCountyGovt-HeleneRelief
Lake Michigan. The dunes are made of the softest sand and some of the most beautiful parks are along the lakeshore. I remember going one winter with some friends and it was probably one of my favorite trips. Honestly, I don’t really remember my friends much, but I remember how crisp the air was. Some of the ice on the lake had cracked and ran into more ice, forming ridges. The night was so silent that you could hear it groaning. For a moment, we were the only people on Earth.
That sounds beautiful. You really captured the moment
The woods/forest. I love to go forest bathing when the weather and my schedule allows, and camping (even at populated camp sites) is so enjoyable.
A deserted beach we found one time. Very peaceful and beautiful.
Sitting by a bonfire all bundled up. Maybe even drinking cocoa or tea.
When someone I love hugs me tight.
Taking a kayak out into one of the local waterways on an early morning. We have a few canals that run through a nature area on the outskirts of the city. Around that time no one is yet on the water and I can just glide peacefully past the water lilies and other plants. The silence is so soothing. Everything just seems to live and breathe all around me.
It’s great until about an hour later, when some of the locals use their motor boat to put-put-put down the canal, stinking up the place with their exhausts :P
My home garden. I’m by no means a great gardener but I’m a software developer working from home and just popping in there to spend 30 minutes caring for the plants is really refreshing.
I have two spots on the other side of the country, that I haven’t seen in almost twenty years, that still serve this function if trying to calm myself down. One is a waterfall in what was then a very lush patch of forest. Another is a quiet bay surrounded by pine trees.
If I’m having a rough time, more likely than not I’m slowing down my breathing and visualizing one of these places.
