• return2ozma@lemmy.worldOP
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    2 months ago

    Same. Gay and married to “my husband”. Before that he was my boyfriend, not my partner.

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      2 months ago

      Yes, my boyfriend! It seems so odd when I see straight people use the term partner. Well, as far as I’m concerned, they can have it.

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        2 months ago

        As a man who has used the term partner in a heterosexual relationship, sometimes it is nice to have a term that implies a bigger commitment than “girlfriend” when you have no intention of marriage. That was definitely how I used it—to convey that this woman doesn’t have a ring, but I give her maximum authority when it comes to my affairs.

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          2 months ago

          Can’t relate. I grew up thinking marriage would always be illegal for me. When I had the opportunity, I took it.

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            2 months ago

            I’m glad you had that chance. Marriage is something I never particularly wanted, but I was brought around to the idea by a different lady. Now we are in counseling and things are on the rocks…I think I may still not believe in marriage, but I respect everyone’s right to choose for themselves.

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              2 months ago

              Hey man.

              I hope that whatever happens with you and your wife, that you’ll be happy and have a bright and good future.

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                2 months ago

                Thanks, I appreciate that. It’s a weird thing when two intelligent people with good intentions suddenly experience a breakdown in communication, but I’m hoping that is what the counseling can help with.