• unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de
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    1 month ago

    Its only “small talk” if you dont actually care about what the other person says. If you are genuinely interested, then its just a conversation. Thats how i see it at least.

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      1 month ago

      Yeah, this. Talking small is faking interest. I’m not good at that. But when I actually care about the other person, “what have you been up to” is meaningful. Cause I actually wanna know.

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      1 month ago

      I mean that’s basically why a lot of us are great at small talk: we actually do care about the contents of that low stakes conversation with strangers.

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      1 month ago

      Yup, the only two things small talk and conversation have in common is that they take a minimum of two people and involve spoken words.

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        1 month ago

        If people small-talk in sign language, would it be called small-talk?

        Your remark about “spoken words” made be think about this and I find it curious, since “small-talk” has become something of a fixed expression.

        While words related to vocal conversations do appear in other phrases like “being left speechless” for example, I imagine “small-talk” to be more of a thing on its own in today’s usage.

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          That’s a good point - do we “speak” sign language? I’d never given it much thought. I think it was lazy writing on my behalf; the phrase “spoken words” could probably be tweaked to make it more obviously inclusive of all the signers out there.