Has anyone gotten this feeling before? For a long time my life was forced to go in a direction I didn’t want it to but I had no choice but to passively accept and deal with where I was being lead. So I think it might be a learnt behavior. I know this isn’t a relationship_advice thing but it feels relevant. (Fyi I am not a vulnerable girl being exploited, but perhaps advice applicable to them might help me too)

      • Num10ck@lemmy.worldEnglish
        1·
        12 hours ago

        deeper struggles. crawling out of a car wreck distracts you from your career prospects. your job interview distracts you from your soulmate vacancy. your orgasm distracts you from your housing situation. your home improvement project distracts you from your poisoned food water and air. your organic farming distracts you from your impending fascist takeover. etc etc

      • degen@midwest.socialEnglish
        5·
        1 day ago

        Being worried about the present keeps the mind from focusing on the deeper stuff, at least for me.

        I’ve self sabotaged many relationships this way. It’s kind of similar to functioning better under pressure in my case, and it could be due to a whole host of psychological underpinnings like feeling undeserving or being acclimated to struggle. I feel out of my element when things are going well a lot of the time.

        Thanks for coming to my therapy session.