I haven’t been polyam long enough to really form a strong historical opinion on this so I’m curious what Hexbears think.
Basically what I’m asking is; do folks in the polyamory community overall feel more ethical or less ethical these days, knowing there is a huge influx of people new to the community due to polyamory becoming a more culturally accepted thing in Western culture and media?
Basically I see lots of new people in the last year or two who "saw it on tv and wanted to try it. " Some of them no doubt are doing it ethically where others are clearly polybombing their partner as an excuse to cheat. So it’s been tough to form an opinion on if polyamory in the media is helping or hurting the community at large.
Curious what others think.
I think there are a lot more younger inexperienced people trying various types of polyamory. Probably leads to a lot of mistakes and bad taste in people’s mouths… I’ve found that most people under 25 don’t really know what they want. I’ve also noticed that younger generations tend to be partnered super early in school and don’t really know how to be alone. Even to the point of taking fake relationships just because that’s what everyone else is doing.
There are always gonna be shitty people, monogamy or no. Some people take advantage of polyamory as an excuse to ignore ethical responsibility. I always preface that I practice relationship anarchy that looks a lot like ethical polyamory (even though polyamory is already supposed to be ENM).
People seem to think that polyamorous people are always available. One of my partners has this problem but I personally enjoy watching them rip ignorant people a new asshole.