• Flying Squid@lemmy.worldOP
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        4 months ago

        This just made me realize that I’ve never bought pads for my wife. I wouldn’t have any issue doing it, and I’m guessing she knows that, but she’s never asked me to.

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          4 months ago

          Just look at the box, then grab the same one on your next grocery run. Do the same with her other feminine products. Put them in the cabinets where they go. Act like it was nothing. Make her wonder how long it was since she bought them herself.

          Advanced mode: Figure out her clothing sizes and what colors work for her, what fabrics feel nice, then get her a cute blouse or dress. Don’t make it a big deal.

          See what happens. One of my best friends mastered this. Dude cleaned up in college.

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            After 24 years of marriage if she isn’t interested in me buying her pads, I don’t think it’s the best surprise present. I’ve bought far more embarrassing things for her regarding body stuff when she’s needed them, so I think she just doesn’t want me to do it. It’s not like she hides them. I mean, she’s also never asked me to buy shampoo or soap or whatever for her. She would rather get exactly what she wants than rely on me to do it for that sort of thing.

            I’ll probably screw it up and buy the wrong ones even if I look at the box. And she’d probably be right with my memory.

            And to be fair, I haven’t gone out of my way to ask her to buy hygiene stuff for me either. We both got in the habit of shopping for ourselves for those sorts of things and it’s working out for us.

            Honestly, it’s so inconsequential that, as I said, I didn’t even realize I’d never done it until I thought about it.

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              She’s his wife. It’s their bathroom. He’s being considerate.

              If you mean my friend, that was in reference to buying his girlfriend a cute blouse now and then. He did the same for friends, his sister, and mom. He wasn’t a fuckboy buying tampons to pick up women. Word got around that he was top shelf. He was funny, charming, considerate, honest, and knew his way around the women’s rack at Goodwill. If a relationship stopped working, he was seldom single long.

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                Yeah, I was just joking about the college friend, I knew what you meant but combining the two stories so the guy is going in and putting tampons in college girls private bathrooms would be a bit of an absurd thing.

                I too have purchased feminine products for my wife :P it was weird the first time, mostly because I had no idea what I was looking for.

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                  4 months ago

                  Oh my bad. I take things too literally sometimes. I just wanted to make sure I didn’t misrepresent one of the best people I’ve known.

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        Nah its not just the US. I’ve run into similar in Ireland. I went into the supermarket to pick up pads and a tub of ice cream. Passed them to the young fella behind the counter who then leans over and whispers “do you need me to put them in a paper bag for ye?”

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      Heck, I once had to go get my mom AND my grandma tampons, and since there was a promotion I got like 3 of the granny ones, no one cared and I only remember because I was like a teenager and thought everyone would care, but no one did!