• RestrictedAccount@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    There is a funny columnist named Dave Barry who has a list of the things I took him 50 years to learn.

    One is that, unless you see the baby crowning, never mention that a woman may be pregnant.

    I think this falls into a similar category.

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      4 months ago

      I 100% agree so it makes this story even better.

      A friend and his wife were at a social event and his wife was very early in pregnancy, they had only told their parents at this point. A 70-something year old man in a suit walks up to them out of the blue and says congratulations. They are taken aback because they didn’t even consider him referring to the pregnancy. He goes on to say he is a retired obstetrician and because of years of experience can just tell.

      Ballsy move by the doc but he sure did know his stuff.

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      unless you see the baby crowning, never mention that a woman may be pregnant.

      Yeah I’ve heard that one before, but there’s a difference between overweight and pregnant, it’s very obvious. You’d have to be a real idiot to mistake fat with pregnant.

      Overweight people do not put all their weight on their stomach, it gets distributed around the limbs and the neck and the upper torso as well.

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        It’s still best not to bring it up. I’ve known folks that, due to series of miscarriages, didn’t talk about it until like month 6 or 7. For similar reasons some cultures are different about it. My Russian friend talked about hers, but said in Russia you really don’t. Like a family will put together a nursery but not really discuss it until after the baby is born. That was one person for the record, I don’t know a ton of Russians, but it kinda indicated different people do it differently.

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        4 months ago

        Actually, people carry weight in different ways. I tend to gain most of my weight in my gut, I have to gain a lot of weight before it becomes noticeable elsewhere.

        In high school every one thought the one teacher was pregnant. Nope just getting fat.