There are many lemmy instances in the world, but currently most people are using lemmy.world. This is why everything has gotten so slow.
You don’t have to delete your lemmy.world account, but check out https://lemmy.fediverse.observer/map it’s a geo-based map of lemmy instances – explore stuff nearest you, pick one, sign up, search , subscribe and begin interacting with your favorite communities. It’s easy, free and it will be faster. Try it!
I agree! I kinda wish there was a giant message on the join-lemmy page where users don’t need to join the biggest instances and would rather join smaller ones cause they can still the same content cause of awesomeness of fediverse.