I want to second writing out your response, reading it, and then if it doesn’t feel fully like a banger/fully empathetic to people, just fucking delete it. I delete stupid stuff I write out all the time. Dumb responses to people that aren’t well thought out. posts that aren’t very helpful or thoughtful. stuff that would probably just piss off the person i’m responding too because they pissed me off in some way. I have typed comments today that I just deleted and moved on with my life about it. Fuck, sometimes I think I have a good contribution and I can’t get the words to word in a way that actually makes sense. I delete it.

Not saying you shouldn’t post, just that it’s necessary to leverage the inherent distance of communicating electronically in the written word in both directions. You cannot communicate the full nuance of your human person to others online; you can try to realize when you simply can’t succeed or are about to put something out that might not be received how you’d intend. You can even put something out there, have people agree with you, and then decide that you must have fucked up a bit for people to be saying what they’re saying in agreement with you and then delete that too. I’ve deleted posts before after deciding hours later that actually I shouldn’t have said that for such and such reason.