I’m curious. I know where my life diverged and where I would’ve been a car guy otherwise, would be interested to see what the dealio with other people is or whether they even ever thought about it

  • erik [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    I am a bike guy. I don’t own a car. Haven’t for over a decade. But I’ve been hit by cars a couple times (only one major one that luckily only put my bike out of commission and not me) and had close calls way more than that. I live in a city with decent, for America, infrastructure with 100 miles of protected bikes lanes. And I get why safety wise, people aren’t ready to do it. I am taking my life into my own hands in a way every time I get on my bike and try to share the road with motorists, who are insane.

    Like, I think the term ‘carbrain’ has gotten over used a bit by urbanists and anti-car folks because it is such a tantalizing term. But it’s certainly not without its use. Something happens to people when they drive cars. They become impatient and entitled on a way that borders on psychological transformation. I’ve never seen an average American more entitled to break the law than when they are a motorist. The speed limit is a suggestion, if you’re not going at least five miles over it, you’re not really driving. There is almost no other activity in American culture I can think of where people suddenly become rule breakers like this (and there should be many times where it would actually be good to break the law and they don’t!), but they suddenly think the most important thing in the world is for them to get where they are going and literally fuck everyone else.

    How many times have any of us seen people double park or otherwise put their car in everyone’s way and just throw on their flashers as if ‘fuck everyone else, my shit is more important’ than we do with motorists? I can’t really think of any other situation where this happens so publicly, so nakedly as it does when people drive.

    And the anger driving causes in folks, I think mostly comes from the cognitive dissonance of their behavior in their car and knowing, deep down, that it is wrong. That they shouldn’t be doing a lot of things they do in their vehicles. Stuff like pedestrians and bikers, who they literally have license to kill (look at the average criminal punishment for murdering someone with a vehicle versus literally any other way one can kill another human being and notice how little consequence there is for ending a human life while driving), remind them of the fact that their decisions are bad. Similar to how certain people get so angry about vegans/vegetarians. It’s the guilty that drives fear and turns it into rage. And that rage, in turn, makes them even more deadly.

    Driving is hard. It’s demanding. And honestly it should have a much higher bar for who can do it because it is so dangerous. But, we’ve completely destroyed people’s ability to get to most places in our society without cars. So, until we make it safe and easy for folks not to drive, we’re stuck in this hellish predicament.

    Rambling today, I guess.

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      5 months ago

      Have you seen the temper tantrums they throw when they’re told to put on a front license plate lol, muh aesthetics are worth more than being held accountable for what they do with their death machine

      Or the meltdown that starts whenever registration fees come up - how DARE they make me pay for the infrastructure I’m destroying one drive at a time! How dare they make me go the speed limit, how dare they make me have a license plate, how dare they not let me wake up the entire city doing 60mph through the streets billowing out black smoke, how dare they make me stop at red lights, how dare they not let me park wherever I want, how dare they make me pay for parking, how dare they make me yield to pedestrians, how dare they make me get a smog check, how dare they how dare they how dare they frothingfash

      It’s all me me me - drivers are the most entitled people in the world