• TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world
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    7 months ago

    I mean, this is why I left a few potential partners. Because they proved to me after months/years of dating that they were going to be a financial drain on me and they could and would not contribute to the relationship financially. I want a partner, not a dependent.

    Just like it’s a choice to have children or not. I’d love to have a kid, or three. but it’s not financially responsible for me to do so.

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      7 months ago

      That is an incredibly callous response to the situation they described. Their partner didn’t decide to be a financial drain. It could happen to you too. All it takes is one bad day and you’re in severe medical debt.

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        7 months ago

        life is callous. and plenty of people decide to be drains who could be productive. it’s also why you buy insurance.

        it has happened to me. my dad died and left us with tons of debt when i as 16. and instead of being a whiny removed about it, i got a job and starting contributing to my family and we were able to pay it off through hard work and sacrifice of luxuries. i was hospitalized for month a few years ago and almost lost my job and had $5000 in unexpected hospital bills. i learned that the only person in life who will ever take care of me… is me, so i decided to take care of me. and now i’m doing great instead of being another whiny entitled millenial who thinks saving is ‘says it’s for my mental health’ when they take empty their savings account to take a vacation to the maldives

        you know what’s ironic. I don’t see immigrants making 30K/yr whining about how they can’t afford a home and retirement and education. I see them working their asses off, and making sacrifices to get ahead, applying for scholarships, living at home, working menial jobs and saving where they can. because they aren’t entitled nitwits who think luxuries are a given. they know they have to be earned.

        what i see is a lot of entitled upper middle class people with six figure salaries who expected the world to be handed to them getting mad they can’t afford a home/retirement because they are spending $5000+ vacationing each year and five figures on other luxuries while they doomscroll on their $1500 phones and whine about how unfair their life is and how unhappy they are and how much their therapy costs them and they will never be able to retire! yeah… no shit they won’t… because unlike the immigrant they are lazy entitled idiots who refuse to be responsible for their own futures.

        I mean, I don’t disagree with you, but we both know people will reject that as government overreach and call it socialism. Esp in the USA culture, people are in love with their own ignorance above all else and will justify to you how their 10 year car loan is ‘worth it’ despite the objectively poor choice that it is.