That is a very long statement for “crazy people don’t get laid”
Not really, all of the participants were in long-term heterosexual relationships.
Relationships averaged 13.3 (SD=10.2) years in length (130 dating, 36 engaged, 389 married).
They did not investigate how often these couples slept together. However, they do state the following:
Participants in the experimental condition did not report significantly greater trust in their romantic partner, as compared to control participants, likely because participants were already, unsurprisingly, highly trusting of their romantic partners.
So I don’t think it is fair to assume that these people were not getting laid.
As for ‘crazy people’, the paper does not call anyone crazy. They also do not apply an absolute negative connotation to the word, they state:
Like moths to flames, conspiracy theorists gravitate to any whisper of information that fuels their suspicions and distrust. While such inclinations might be advantageous when the government is actually behaving duplicitously, they are less advantageous in the context of a global health pandemic where resistance to public health advice directly compounds death rates (Robertson, 2021; VoPham et al., 2020).
You are truly the spiritual guidence of this instance. I appreciate it. (Very big not /s)
This is now my mental image of you.
Well, that’s exactly what I look like! Look at my profile picture for proof.
Yas, our wizard overlord.
I’m going to have a nightmare about this and I blame you for it.
I appreciate the nuance. Thanks!
That said, I listen to a podcast that focuses on (victims of) conspiratorial thinking and some of the stuff people believe is wild. The recurring theme is that conspiracy-types are most-often looking for control or meaning because their lives are not where they’d like to be. I suspect this is true for people in relationships, too.
It’s funny thinking back to some of the biggest conspiracy theorists I know they all have a broken relationship. In many cases though it’s the conspiracy theories that are driving the division.
Chicken or egg, right?
The disconnect and animosity between men and women in western society is one of the biggest single dangers out there. That isn’t to say that we should be going with the incel conception of State mandated girlfriends, but rather that there are good men out there and there are good women out there and we need to figure out ways to elevate both of them and connect them together.
I am glad I am not in the dating game at this point in my life. I know I very easily could have been an anxious wreck of a hermit if I was completely on my own. Hopefully not a conspiracy theorist, but I can’t honestly say I don’t have tendencies that could put me there.
The poor relationship between the sexes is something I have morbidly kept my eyes on for a long time. I married pretty young, but I have a good handful of inexplicably single friends, both male and female. None of whom seem to be compatible with each other, or frankly even living in the same perceptual universe. They are all good people, fairly successful, and not being unreasonable in their standards as far as I can tell. But there is just some complete lack of trust or faith in the opposite sex on both ends. It hurts to watch.
I think best case scenario is that matchmaking services and “arranged marriages” (by this I mean voluntary setups through families and social networks, nothing coercive) begin to catch on. There has got to be a way to pair up people who are at least somewhat vetted for trustworthiness and seriousness in seeking companionship, outside of the confusing and alienating social landscape we have developed, or the meat market of online dating. But maybe I am naïve to think that would work.
In 2008, something I came up with was the concept where when you get rid of rules long after everyone who set them up are gone, people don’t know why the rules exist, so when the rules are removed they just assume the rules were bad and they get massive short-term benefits, but soon they discover why the rules were there in the first place.
I think we’re seeing why a lot of the rules between men and women existed. We got rid of the rules, but it turns out they existed for good reasons, to help ensure a level of trust between the sexes and to try to reduce behaviors that reduce trust and faith between sexes.
We were already starting to see it back then (when I happened to be dating), but it’s gotten worse since then. Internet dating really didn’t help things, reducing people to photos and bullet points.
Neckbeards and various other miscreants, obsessed with the term “cuck”. It kinda checks out, don’tcha think?
Does this only pertain to conspiracy theorists or normal people who believe misinformation as well?
Alright folks! Let’s get out there and fuck our way to sanity!
joke
Yeah, I know, that’s not what it actually says
s/fuck/romance/
