• Ephera
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    2 months ago

    It’s a personal experience report. Why would it need to make sense? She could have ten hobbies and still feel excluded in certain social contexts, because e.g. most of her colleagues are parents and therefore don’t have much time for hobbies themselves.

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      2 months ago

      Exactly.

      Her feelings might not be representive of reality, which means the article is pretty pointless.

      because e.g. most of her colleagues are parents and therefore don’t have much time for hobbies themselves.

      You don’t pick hobbies your coworkers have to try to turn them into friends…

      You find hobbies you enjoy to occupy your time and sometimes you met people who share that hobby and they become friends.

      It’s the same as dating, if you’re out there doing stuff just to meet someone it’s going to feel like work. Just go out and enjoy yourself, and you’ll probably run across people you get along with.