Don’t let the haters divide us against each other.

  • scoobford@lemmy.zip
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    7 months ago

    It should work that way, but somehow it works in reverse. All the gay people think you’re actually straight and confused (lol), all the straight people think you’re in the closet. And pretty much everyone thinks you want to cheat on them.

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      7 months ago

      And pretty much everyone thinks you want to cheat on them.

      Wait, why is that? Do they think that because your possible partners is doubled (over heterosexual people) that your likelihood to cheat is also doubled? Even then, isn’t zero doubled still zero?

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        7 months ago

        Best I can tell they either think you’re twice as horny, or they’re the kind who would have been insecure about opposite sex friends because you might be attracted to them, but you’re bisexual so everyone is effectively an option.

        And yes, 2*0=0. As soon as I came out as bi and poly, all of my prospects dried up. I was literally invited into throuples and polycules when I identified as straight and monogamous, now it’s rare enough for me to meet someone that I’m basically back the closet.

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          7 months ago

          I’m curious, were there old invitations that turned out to not be legitimate? Or was there a stretch of time between those invitations and identifying as bi+poly?

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        7 months ago

        This isn’t, like, officially a thing. No one demands this. But culturally, it is very much a thing that lots of people only really have friends to which they’re categorically not attracted.

        There’s this whole concept of certain friend group activities being gendered, like watching sports is a thing men typically do with other (hetero) men.

        Of course, it does also just make friendships less complicated, if it’s clear from the start that no one wants romance.

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        7 months ago

        Imo it’s because those people are looking for excuses to feed their deep-seated paranoia.