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PRIOR THREADS:

So, it’s been a minute. Apologies. Life has been overwhelming me lately. School, work, more failed attempts at dating, etc. Please be patient, I have autism (probably) creature

I was also reading Devon Price’s new book, Unlearning Shame. Definitely recommend. He dismantles shame as a social construct of behavioral reinforcement and the undergirding of the lie that is rugged individualism, and prescribes the cure of building community and understanding social interconnectedness on a deep level. Made me re-examine just how much shame is woven into the fabric of the way I conduct myself and hoo boy it’s a lot. I blame my Catholic upbringing.

Anyway, I figured before I dive back into the next chapter it’d be nice to get caught up and see where everyone is at. Share your thoughts here, ask questions, get caught up. I want to make a new post next week but first I have to write an informative speech and then an essay about some story or another

Let’s cut down on the decision paralysis with some discussion questions:

  • What’s new with you, neurodiversity-wise, since the last thread?
  • Any points of contention, confusion, or questions from prior chapters?
  • Post any thoughts specific to the last chapters that you didn’t get to share before.

Tag post to follow.

  • sevenapples@lemmygrad.ml
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    8 months ago

    I’ve read up to the middle of chapter 6 and sadly I can’t say that there’s something new to how I understand myself. It feels like I lie in the middle between being autistic or not. For example, my processing style is not bottom-up, but I share most of the social struggles.

    What has really stood out for me so far is the story of Chris in chapter 3. I relate to feeling “sorry” for people like Chris when they do something socially inappropriate, usually accompanied by large amounts of second-hand embarrassment if they’re in my friend group. I also get a deep fear that other people will consider me “equal” to people like Chris if I hang out with them.

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      8 months ago

      Like Dr. Price points out in the book everyone’s ASD manifests differently

      I’m convinced I have enough autistic traits for this book to apply to me and to explain so much of my life better. But I’ve learned the hard way I can’t really tell people I’m autistic, they literally don’t understand, and it just fucks up my chances of having any sort of relationship with them.

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      8 months ago

      For example, my processing style is not bottom-up, but I share most of the social struggles

      You might have the BAP (Broader Autism Phenotype) then. Also, you don’t need to exhibit all of the behaviors to be autistic