Wrote this as a comment, but was too long. Feel free to disagree.

I think that lemmygrad should be defederated, but i think that lemmy.ml should not be defederated, not for now anyway. The vast majority of people on lemmy.ml are not tankies, and politics or tankieism is not a major topic of discussion on lemmy.ml.

Idk if this is true, but I heard that they suppress anti-ccp views, but as long as they don’t defederate from other instances, you can always just post them here or on whatever other instance and they’ll still be fully visible from lemmy.ml (i’m pretty sure this is true but not 100%, still pretty new to all this fediverse stuff). If they did however start defederating from every instance that allowed truth about “left” auth governments, then yeah ok you can defederate. But that is not what lemmy.ml is doing, at least not right now.

There’s different rules based on instance, this will probably be a sticking point and has the potential to derail lemmy entirely if every instance is only federated with the “correct” instances. Lets say lemmy has 100,000 users, its not that much yet but for example. If there’s 10 different “networks” that only talk to each other from that same network that has the same rules (obviously, bigotry/“don’t be an asshole” rules need to be enforced for every instance), that site is doomed to failure vs if there’s 1 network with everyone talking to each other and generally agreed upon default communities for each topic, or even the idea of “multireddits” in whatever form.

I’m not saying federate with every instance, I’m just saying it should be a HIGH bar, not a low bar like a differing signup policy. Being focused on porn makes sense or even if an instance was 50% porn, that’d make sense. Or obviously if there’s bigotry, extremism or violence coming from an instance. Which lemmygrad.ml passes, but lemmy.ml doesn’t.

If you defederate based on small things, then there’ll be 10 gaming communities, 10 NFL communities, 10 “ask reddit” communities. Which is not sustainable obviously. This was one advantage of reddit, it was a “hub” that had 1 (maximum 2 if a split, there was never 3 that were totally equivalent for any topic) forum for literally every topic in the world. A single for profit company controlling pretty much every equivalent to a 2000s forum on the web was very convenient, but was always going to end badly.

Beehaw.org just defererated lemmy.world and shitjustworks, because of the open signups policy (as opposed to the waist high fence of a few paragraphs explaining why you’re not an asshole)

That’s a major mistake imo and i don’t think I’ll be using that account as my “main” anymore. Not like I dislike the instance or anyone from it, but a lot of lemmy is now invisible entirely from there.

TL;DR defederating should be used only when you are fundamentally opposed to the core of an instance. Otherwise the lemmy universe will fracture and fail

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        I’m naive to the complexities of tankies and their beliefs, and was unwilling to defederate over political issues that I am only familiar with at a surface level. Doubly so, given that no queer folk were highlighting them as a source of ongoing queerphobia

        However, I did a deep dive in to some of the content on lemmygrad, and it crossed the line to more than political differences. (Which to be fair is what people had been telling me)

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    Beehaw.org just defererated lemmy.world and shitjustworks, because of the open signups policy (as opposed to the waist high fence of a few paragraphs explaining why you’re not an asshole)

    To my understanding, Beehaw defederated with those instances due to an ongoing harrasment campaign by a few of their users. The open signups were not the reason they defederated, but rather a factor enabling the harrasment; the user(s) would be banned from beehaw, and inmediately make an additional account to continue harrassment. Beehaw has been pretty open about the how and why of defederation, and to my knowledge theyve been working with the admins of shitworks to get to a place where refederating is possible.

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    I think we should only defederated instances that are actively harming this instances community in a way that cannot be handled any other way.

    We all have personal block buttons that can be used to handle communities and individuals we don’t want to see, and we have other less extreme tools at our disposal to handle a lot of things like this.

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      Idk if i said it right in my post, but that’s what I’m trying to say. Probably about 1000 words too long and confusing lol.

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    Beehaw.org just defererated lemmy.world and shitjustworks, because of the open signups policy (as opposed to the waist high fence of a few paragraphs explaining why you’re not an asshole)

    That’s a major mistake imo

    My understanding, from reading some other comments, is that beehaw.org is heavily aimed at providing a safe space for the LGBT crowd, and weights restrictions on speech and access to content in favor of achieving that.

    That is very much not what I am looking for. However, I am also very sure that it is what some people do want.

    So I think that it’s hard to say that it’s a mistake. I mean, if that’s what people on the instance want and what the people running the instance are trying to provide, how can one say that it’s wrong?

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      This is a thread about lemmy.blahaj.zone, which is also a safe space server. That’s why we’re discussing whether or not defederating with less-moderated instances is a mistake.

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        Sure, but that specific portion of OP’s comment was strictly about whether beehaw’s decision was a correct one.

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          Beehaw also plans to possibly re-federate at some point in the future as moderation tools improve for this platform. Important thing to note about beehaw is all of their communities are tailor made and moderated by instance admins. They have a “white glove” sort of approach to moderating that I can appreciate, but don’t necessarily want for my “home” instance.

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      To be clear, defederating is not a last resort for Blahaj Lemmy. We will aggressively defederate from any instance that is a source of ongoing transphobia, queerphobia or other bigotry, even the “just asking questions” kind.

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        (Replying to an old comment because I’ve been thinking about this a lot).

        Is there an equivalent on Lemmy to “limiting” like on Mastodon? I think you’re right that part of the appeal of the Mastodon network was it’s zero tolerance for “just asking questions” BS, but there are probably grey area cases