• SuddenDownpour@sh.itjust.works
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    9 months ago

    Unironically this. Tinder is built in such a way that it makes appearance count far more than it does in almost any other environment. Add to that that there’s a huge disproportion between male and female users. For most people, Tinder is just a miserable experience.

    • AwkwardLookMonkeyPuppet@lemmy.world
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      9 months ago

      I was married before any of these apps became available, so I’ve never experienced them. How do people deal with the Instagram filter effect? I’m assuming everyone is using every filter they can for their profile pictures. So what happens when you actually meet someone in real life without all those filters? Does everyone just flee in terror at the arrival of their date?

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        9 months ago

        Yes. That’s pretty much what I would do. Flee.

        It’s a giant waste of time for everyone. It’s honestly horrible and I wish there was a way to seriously penalize people who do that. I’d say >80% of the girls use filter effect. I can’t tell guys since I don’t look at guy profiles. Though, guys would have better effect taking a pic in front of a random Porsche parked on the street and lie about their height than using filters.

        You can tell people are using filters most of the time once you’ve seen enough. Lot of them are pretty obvious. And some of them are completely obvious as it still has the filter’s name literally on the photo.

        I would absolutely prefer to match on below avg girl with real face than hot girl with fake filter face. With real photos, I know what I’m getting into, and found them to be much more down to earth as well.

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          9 months ago

          It’s not just the filters, how photogenic you are also has a huge effect there can be a massive difference between what you see on the tinder pics and what’s in real life and it goes both ways, as in it can be much better but also much worse

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        9 months ago

        I mean it’s kind of rare, you usually end up snapchatting at some point or whatever, I had a good amount of dates from Tinder and I never felt tricked really as far as I can recall.