Where are all my transhet sisters?
I love the queer community and I feel like the more I work on myself, the less accepted I will be as a queer person.
For example, I joined a queer friend-finding app recently which didn’t have an option to label myself heterosexual. At first I went stealth and didn’t list my sexuality, and I got lesbians calling me a tease. I made a public post about being transhet and I mostly got messages from weird cis men.
I’m going to look for friends only under the trans umbrella for now, online and irl.
To that end: I like pop music, knitting, and politics. Please tell me your favorite online communities and people to follow!
That’s exactly how I feel! I think it’s compounded by living in a rural area. I want to fit in not only because that’s my childhood dream but also for a sense of safety. I’m not sure what the answer is either. Maybe this is just a stage of transitioning or maybe it’s possible to form strong bonds with allies, eventually, the way it seemed to feel easier with queer people before. I just know that I feel lonely at the moment and the queer community as a whole has seemed more distant to me.