• guyrocket@kbin.social
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    9 months ago

    You forgot the part where the early bird tells the night owl they’re “lazy” for sleeping so late, which is complete and utter bullshit because you both slept the same amount.

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      9 months ago

      My wife falls asleep at 10pm, wakes up at 8am (10 hours sleep). I fall asleep at 2am and get up at 9am (7 hours sleep) and she says “must be nice”. 🙄

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      9 months ago

      I just want my partner to be conscious for 12 hours a day :( being awake only from 9pm-6am is a LOT of sleep for a night owl

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        9 months ago

        Are they on their phone at all during the asleep hours? Any signs of depression?

        I ask this as a night owl. I usually sleep for about 7 and a half hours, but when I wake up I grab my phone and have been known to sit there and scroll for at least an hour. If I lay there long enough there’s a good chance I get drowsy and fall asleep again for anywhere from 30 minutes to another full sleep cycle (1.5 hours for me)… And then I’m usually drowsy AF the rest of the day.

        And the depression thing… Well… I’d think it’s obvious why I’m asking, but yea… Worth bringing up.

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          9 months ago

          Yes, it is a current struggle we are both overcoming while we search for affordable healthcare to get a sleep study done. We think she has sleep apnea which also leads to terrible sleep quality, and the phone-in-bed thing is… a work in progress lol

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            9 months ago

            The phone thing… Why not make it a mutual rule of no phones in bed? Like if you want to be on your phone, that’s fine, but go sit in the living room or something? I’m assuming you’ve communicated with her about wanting more time with her during the day?

            The sleep study is tough, I don’t even think that’s the expensive part of the whole equation.

            Good luck to you. If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out!

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        9 months ago

        Lol your partner wakes up at 9pm??? Also that’s 15 hrs of sleep a day, daaaang I can barely sleep 12 hrs and that’s if I’m up for like 2 days straight

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          9 months ago

          Yeah, anywhere from 12-15 hours a day. Scheduling a sleep study is quite difficult when the patient is in their twenties, our current insurance says it isn’t needed.