The labels have the character’s name followed by 受 (uke), which means being the receptive or passive partner, or in BL slang means the bottom. Most underrated organizational system ever by the way. Please show this to anyone who claims that “unwoke” Japan doesn’t “shoehorn queerness into everything”.

      • Cromalin [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
        21·
        9 months ago

        i know a lot of heterosexual men who like dick. genuinely, not a bit. straight guys are constantly whacking it to removed porn and then being transphobic to anyone who’s a little clocky. and that doesn’t make them bisexual or anything, they’re still cishet

        • Tankiedesantski [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
          7·
          9 months ago

          I fully admit to being ignorant but in my mind being a guy and being attracted to dicks is somewhere on the spectrum of sexuality towards being gay or at least not “completely” hetero. Is the current definition self identification or something else I’m missing?

              • SerLava [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
                3·
                9 months ago

                It depends, like if I only like people with full on masculine features I’m a pretty standard gay man, if I only like people with feminine features I’m probably straight, and then it starts to break down in the middle, unless I don’t care about certain features, but there isn’t a hard line. Regardless of what specific person I am attracted to, I feel like if all I can think about is getting all up in a thick beard then I’m probably somewhere in the middle. I guess it’s all about the things that specifically are important to someone

                • ashinadash [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
                  7·
                  9 months ago

                  “In the middle” shouts to the gender binary. I find it interesting that you acknowledge sexuality as being highly personal and deeply complicated, yet view it through a simple binary. Not that I broadly disagree with what you’ve said, fwiw

                  • SerLava [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
                    3·
                    9 months ago

                    I guess by in the middle I just mean not exclusively attracted to masculine or feminine attributes, speaking in terms of like more superficial physical attraction and not so much about romantic attraction and how that can be affected by gendered cultural norms and that sort of thing

                    Sexuality definitely is hard to pin down, it’s like, all abstractions upon abstractions, it’s so complex really that identifying “objective” information about it is basically absurd- basically trying to describe a thought or emotion by listing out neuron states or something, it’s not possible

                  • da_gay_pussy_eatah [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
                    2·
                    9 months ago

                    I mean I get what you mean, my anatomy certainly doesn’t stop me from feeling like a woman. Obviously gender is far far more than anatomy, but I’m not going to pretend like they are completely unrelated. If that’s your experience, that’s great and I’m happy for you, but it’s unfortunately not mine.

        • GalaxyBrain [they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
          4·
          9 months ago

          I am bi, but do struggle with the mostly it’s cause I like dick issue. It’s mainly.cause guys are really warm. I’m already warm and thrive around 10 degrees. If someone else is also being a radiator I’m feeling stuffy and gross fast