• ULS
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    10 months ago

    Why lie? If someone’s going act like a cunt about it tell em to FOD. Maybe not mean like that… But fuck em.

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      10 months ago

      I think it’s very healthy to not lie… But as a 37 year old I was raised (rather firmly) with the understanding that “I didn’t feel motivated to start” was a fully unacceptable “lazy” excuse.

      For me, spinning some bullshit reason is so second nature that I’ll do it before I realize it might be easier to just be transparent. To further complicate things I’m such a high achiever that I can usually dig myself out of the hole before eating any real pain so… I rarely eat serious shit for my lies.

      If you can be honest I think that’s by far the better tactic.

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        10 months ago

        Well tbf I’m brutally honest and it hasn’t really helped me.

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          10 months ago

          Nah, it’s a good habit… It’s easier to slightly temper your expression than be more direct and non-shit managers (I am one) will appreciate your candor because it let’s us plan and respond better.

    • Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      10 months ago

      Shame usually, and the fear that they’ll reject me for my shortcomings

      And of course a(n) (un)healthy sprinkling of self loathing for failing (yet again) to do the things I set out to do

      I’m better at it now than I was before but accepting myself was the biggest step in stopping those lies

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        10 months ago

        The point of not lying about it though is so that future generations don’t need to lie.

        But yeah… Shit sucks.