Edit: For transparency sake, the original image was only the first tweet and none of the follow ups. The negative nancies compelled me to point out their nonsense.

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    Based on her description of what the guy said it sounds like he was genuinely trying to just say something nice and she took it that way. As long as the email didn’t follow up with a “so are you still single, let’s get together” or whatever it’s fine.

    I think all the news of creepers out there and the Incel crowd makes it hard to see things through a positive lens, but there really are good folks out there. We all would benefit from assuming good intent when we see things like this.

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    Wow, most of the people in this comment section are sad to watch.

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      Really though. “Oh my god it’s so creepy!” they say on behalf the girl who did not find it creepy but found it endearing.

      Do you know what? Fuck it. I just went and found the entire chain and am editing the main post to have the whole chain instead of the first message.

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        Don’t post this! All the incel white knights who have deemed that person creepy have already spoken!

        Seriously. That you posted her actual reaction and people downvoted you because it goes against the narrative they themselves made up is fucking weird

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          Chances are it’s just the person who I responded to downvoting in a kneejerk response to being told they’re wrong. Can’t say I haven’t done it. I try not to but it happens. I don’t judge on that. The rest of the behavior? A little.

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            So lame really terminally online people here, Jesus. If people think this was creepy, they need to go touch grass and talk to some real people.

            They’re gonna go to a class reunion and call the damn cops lmao

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      Someone remembering you as a human being with hopes and aspirations and congratulating you on accomplishing them without attaching any weird come on? Absolutely lovely.

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      Could be either sweet or stalkerish. Depends on the vibes and the person honestly. With the right person especially if they have a memorable name then it wouldn’t be too weird, especially if they talked for a while and it didn’t end poorly. If it was really awkward talking to them and they just messaged you out of nowhere, yeah that’s sketch.

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        After 4 years it’s only not creepy if it’s an acquaintance and they wouldn’t message on instagram for something like this.

        It’s funny how these feel “good stories” are what people try to do and it’s always don’t be a creep, in real life it’s weird. This isn’t a fantasy story. Straight up fucking weird in every level after that amount of time.

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          Person is chillin’ reading about their favorite sports team. Gets to the bottom of the article and sees the standard Photo/Name/Title signature of the author many sites use. Recognizes the face and name of the lady they had a nice chat with on a dating app. Remembers author mentioning they wanted to be a sports writer. Sends DM saying congrats.

          If you think that’s creepy, the problem might be you.

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          Bro, chill. You have no real context into the situation. Hell, her tweet might even be fake. Stop virtue signaling about shit you’re not even involved with.

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            Stop virtue signaling about shit you’re not even involved with.

            For fucking real. This has become a far too common thing for people to get upset for shit on behalf of people who don’t care.

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            Yes except for 99% of the time it goes the opposite way, we shouldn’t be glorifying the one in a billion times it doesn’t.

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      I’ve matched with people in the same industry as me and then have gone on to see them around (I’m married now). Not that weird.