A month ago I found out that my (30’s ftm) live-in boyfriend of 3 years (30’s m) was sexting with various guys and making plans to meet up. We fought, made up, and got into therapy. Things are slowly healing.
Today I found out that an old friend of his that he used to sext with before our relationship still sends him nudes regularly on snapchat. I found out because my bf had saved a bunch of them. My bf says that he never responds to them and so he didn’t think it was an issue. I disagree - If anyone I knew irl ever sent me nudes I would immediately delete it, ask them not to send more, and tell my bf about it.
My question is, was his lack of action yet another instance of cheating?
You aren’t stupid. Someone used your love and emotions against you and violated your trust and then continued to abuse it. You are guilty only of seeing the best in someone you care for. But don’t feel down. Some people aren’t right for others and why settle for someone who either doesn’t care about your feelings or who is deliberately doing these things? You deserve a partner that treats you like a partner and can understand and value your boundaries.
Thank you. I do deserve those things.