What helped you make the decision to be child-free? How do I be sure about what I want? Looking for recommendation - resources, articles, books etc.
My partner just let me know he would be ready to start trying in a year. My head just spun. I am not ready now at 31 (as a woman and my clock is going tick-tock) and I don’t think I will ever be ready. I am neither excited about the process of birthing nor does a crying pooping tantrum-throwing machine excite me!
You have to be a bit selfish and think about what you want. Do you want kids? As a woman do you want to go through child birth? If these are things you don’t truly desire and want you’re going to be miserable raising a child, which won’t be good for you or the child.
Also, if you and your partner are not on the same page here you need to be. You need to talk about what each other wants, and if you both want different things then you’ll want to consider your future together because it might not work out.
Ultimately what you want and what your partner wants are both equally important.