Downvote from me. This whole question and thread seems clearly to be about you processing some very particular encounters, and, frankly, it doesn’t seem to be proceeding in a particularly healthy fashion.

If you wanted to discuss a problematic culture here, that’s cool, provide links if examples and a breakdown and a thesis as to what’s going on … ie actual content … and we can discuss and read. A question with a hidden agenda and unspecific angsty critiques in the comments … isn’t valuable, for neither us nor you.