• emptiestplace
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    3 months ago

    Are you disregarding your partner’s needs here?

    • Mossy Feathers (They/Them)@pawb.social
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      3 months ago

      One would hope that you’d solve issues like that before getting married. Whether that means an open marriage, having a partner who’s also ace, finding ways to fulfill your partners needs without having sex yourself, etc.

      You’re not wrong, but I think most married couples that involve someone who’s ace would have that problem solved by the time they get to marriage.

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        3 months ago

        Yeah.

        I think “love your partner, but don’t wanna fuck 'em” implies you’ve already failed in this regard.