Exactly. Minority groups that are tolerated within larger, harmful movements are often manipulated and leveraged in some way that negatively impacts that minority group or other minority groups. See also the Log Cabin Republicans.

I think having this data would be interesting, but to say

Proof of religious LGBTQ+ people pushes back against hateful movements

in the context of what the article is discussing is a big assumption. Hateful movements gonna hate. I’ve seen individual hearts and minds change once people realize that LGBTQ+ people aren’t “boogeymen” that must be watched out for, but are instead their neighbors, coworkers, sons and daughters (and I’ve seen those hearts and minds harden too…). But at the group level, in my experience, people who buy into those hateful religious movements don’t usually view their group actions as hateful—they view them as necessary to save themselves and others in the name of their beliefs.

Instead of shouting “those people are unlike us and we must fight against sin” in the direction of non-religiously affiliated LGBTQ+ people, it becomes “bless their hearts they want to be on the righteous path but we must help them overcome the scourge of sin” directed at religious in-group LGBTQ+ people. Maybe the hateful vitriol is softened, but the outcome tends to be the same.

But maybe I’m just jaded because I think organized religion is largely a scourge on humanity.

I feel for OP and the targeted ads that presumably led to this post. I also used to have a cat, though I need no reminding of that fact as I think of him daily. But this was jarring to read at 530am out of the blue. So OP is the asshole in my personal book. This could have been broached in a way that avoids re-traumatizing others.

Two father household here. We are Dad and Pop. We’ll use it until they’re old enough to want to call us something else if they choose to. We felt it was important to establish unique names for each of us from the outset to avoid the situation of having to use our first names later on, which is a personal choice.

Blanket whenever you need them

I’m so conflicted by this. On its face I want to be happy that it’s happening.

I’m not a supporter of public funds for private schools, in general. Large-scale studies have shown that voucher programs can have very modest positive effects or may have significant negative effects on performance. And while these kids are supposedly going to be taking conflict resolution classes, that stuff is harder to put into practice in the real world. If they’re going to be faced with bigotry (and they will at some point), I would say that school is arguably a more controlled environment on the whole to experience it and learn to handle it than a street corner. Removing these kids from the general population also doesn’t do anything to increase the visibility of LGBTQ+ individuals among schoolchildren, especially at this young age when initial impressions and opinions are being formed, nor does it help to dismiss the idea that queer kids are getting the kind of “special treatment” that ultimately has the capacity to breed resentment and homophobia among parents and their kids.

But of course, the primary argument I can think of against all of the above is that LGBTQ+ youth should not be sacrificial lambs for a cause. We need to protect them. We also need to teach non-LGBTQ identifying kids and school administration how to be active allies. And improve resources in all schools. And make every school a safe and welcoming space for everybody.

I’m just so conflicted. In the immediate term, this feels like it’s the right thing to do. But on a longer term time horizon, this looks like it will only cause additional problems down the road, merely addressing symptoms and not root causes.

Haley Joel Osment did this back in 2000, and look where it got him!

Congratulations, it’s a big step and often not a very comfortable one your first few times. Also, this is not meant to put a damper on anything, but just understand that you’ll be coming out your entire life, (especially) any time you’re in a relationship with someone of the same sex.

Friend group in college? You’ll be coming out either overtly (“I’m bi!”) or implicitly.

Introducing people at work to your partner. At first when you do it you’ll be watching for reactions, gauging any changes in body language. It’s just the reality.

And it’s why normalizing different orientations and presentations of the many facets of being LGBTQ+ is so important in society. So that coming out doesn’t have to be a real thing anymore. You’ve done something important and beyond yourself. The more people realize that LGBTQ+ people are everywhere—the more seen we are—the more it becomes normalized and helps shifts the current default.

The idea of scheduled blooms to complement edible foods is an interesting one for sure. I guess I assumed that there is more wildlife wanting the flowery bits than I have flowery bits to offer, so that none would necessarily eclipse the other, if that’s what you were meaning. My pepper plant is in a pot in the thick of lavender, rudbeckia, alyssum, basil that has gone to flower, and a couple other things. Everything seems pretty well occupied at the moment since it’s all in full bloom, with different types of insects specializing in feasting on different plants.

I don’t necessarily want to think too hard about it. My tomatoes are in the backyard, and they’re doing fine. I added the pepper plant to a container with petunias, coleus, and lantana just to offer some height and to help shade the coleus (the sprawling petunias are doing just as well of a job at that). But it’s fun to think about how to time things just right, if not also somewhat difficult. Similar to cooking.

In any case, my perennials are there and getting fully established so the best I could do would be to maybe change location of my peppers next year. But the season is still young. I have hope.

Best of luck to you. For what it’s worth, I have a single pepper plant that looks beautiful, puts out a great succession of flowers, and is surrounded by pollinator plants. But it just hasn’t put out a single fruit yet. Oh well. It won’t deter me from planting again next year.

Do you fertilize or sidedress with compost? Tomatoes and peppers tend to be heavy feeders. They need a lot of nutrients (but follow package directions if using fertilizer). And I can’t tell from the picture if the soil is mulched. Mulching goes a long way to help prevent soil moisture from evaporating, cooling the roots, and generally helping to limit the impact of extremes in heat and water availability on plants.

I don’t remember this. When were these glamour shots of my husband and me even taken?

The Bravest Knight on Hulu. The focal character is the daughter of two men, who both appear regularly.

Edit: Also “Ridley Jones” on Netflix. It’s an Indiana Jones kind of thing. The two gay fathers of one of the side characters feature a lot less, so you could cherry pick some episodes.

I honestly can’t remember if it’s June-bearing. It is producing at the moment. Will have to see if it fruits at the end of summer. Either way I’ll divide it later this summer. It’s got more than extra runners, these are basically fully grown plants grown from the main plant. Thanks for the advice!

Did you just thin, or did you actually divide them? Any tips for dividing if that’s the way you went? I’ve had the same plant in a pot for three years and it’s grown substantially since the first year (I can see four separate shoots coming out of the soil), but the yield seems to have reduced, and I think dividing it would help it. Just not sure when/how to go about it.