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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • I used it once, got a decent date out of it. Despite its gimmick it doesn’t feel very different from similar apps to me. I’ve grown to really dislike this style of dating app, it makes me feel almost ghoulish making a snap judgment on a human being based on a picture and short description. I know that’s a tad dramatic and I don’t want to discount the format if it works for you, but swipe-based apps always leave me with a bad feeling until I’ve had enough and delete them.

    I used to use OKCupid 10+ years ago and I liked it more, the emphasis on filling out a good profile and answering compatibility questions appealed to me. Not sure if OKCupid is still like that now or not.

    Also, maybe this is more of a personal issue but I’ve had this happen both times I’ve gotten a date from Bumble and Tinder - there’s a lot of reading between the lines and mixed messages that I am not good at. Both times I met up with someone there was an expectation of a sexual encounter on their end that I was in no way prepared for. But I think that stems for my need to be direct and I might be incompatible with that kind of dating scene, haha.



  • This is exactly how I’ve been teaching myself to approach eating in the past year. I’ve been over the weight I’d like to be for a long time, and had failed repeatedly at improving my weight or my health with lower calorie count, but ultimately nutritionally lacking food.

    Amazingly I’ve found that changing my primary goal to getting a certain amount of fiber each day and generally trying to eat nutritionally complete meals, I’ve felt better and even been losing weight more consistently. I say this with the caveat that I am soft-counting calories, but I have not been worrying about keeping track of it too much, nor have I needed to.

    It feels obvious but it’s amazing how effective simply targeting healthy foods and activities (rather than focusing on forbidding foods and activities) can work out.