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Cake day: June 20th, 2023

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  • No, I think that’s talking about Aria Babu, a person from London who’s changed the focus of her career to become a “pronatalist”. The woman in the photos is Simone Collins, and I haven’t read about her age. I’m usually the kind that reads the whole articles on links but I could only bring myself to skim through this lunacy.







  • Do a search on yourself - try to find out your real identity based on information online, and do it as thoroughly as if you were searching for your worst enemy.

    If you can find who you are yourself, chances are they will.

    Make sure you don’t have anything “hairy” tied to an email with an email address you’d use for anything uncompromising. E.g. keep the email you use to login on Lemmy and the email you use to login on netflix separate.

    Use 2 factor authentication and a password manager. Treat your password leaks seriously and consider any leaked accounts burnt - assume the details you had in there are now known.

    Avoid using your real name on anything you can.

    Best wishes. Take care my friend!






  • I had that too. When you’re a cis male adult you’ve had decades of social conditioning telling you that’s not allowed. I’m gay but being born in Spain I was brought up in a traditional macho culture. I’d “pass” except for those with the most finely tuned gaydar, not because I tried hiding it by the time I realised but because I was conditioned to fit in the straight cis male behaviour box.

    It took me a few years of unlearning trying to shake it off myself and what helped most, a loving partner who is in tune with his emotions. I have gotten immensely better at understanding and expressing my emotions, verbally or otherwise, and also doing that without channelling them into “proxy” emotions that are acceptable for macho expectations and culture.




  • That’s true, but the person perceived to be “in power” in the relationship (what was called traditionally the breadwinner) is less likely to complain about the situation. I don’t think many working people, women or otherwise, think “I wish I could work at home tidying up the house for no salary and have no income of my own!”

    I agree with your point still - once children are in the equation some women might shift towards the traditional view if that means they’d get to stay at home spending time with them.