She gained some weight but she is not fat at all!

  • LeadersAtWork@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    My partner flat asked if I still find her as attractive as I used to. After some thought I said the following, “I don’t think that’s fair. You’re asking me to rate someone I care about so much. I don’t want to do that. I love you and just want to be there for you, with you.”

    Tbh, I don’t know what the right answer might be for others. I’m not that wise. All I know for certain is how I feel and hoped that was enough. It was, though I am sad that I can’t take her self-esteem and tear away those damn chains that hold it back from growing.

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      11 months ago

      That’s what I say as well and not just to those sort of questions.

      ‘I’m not gonna answer that since there’s no upside to it regardless of what I say.’

      It’s my go to for unfair questions/questions my opinion doesn’t matter in.