When someone is toxic, the first thing people try to do is to try and get them to treat you right or reason with them, but you will often find many people are not responsive to this. The reason these ideologies exist is because in modern society people end up in positions and labor together (Or even families or other assignments like the military) and cannot discard other members of these places so easily. This also goes back to the educational system where you were basically stuck with whoever you were assigned to classes with. It can be a form of learned helplessness. You must be strategic in who you interact with in these environments and how, because others can end up working against you for various reasons. Usually antagonism or for purposes of competition or jealousy.

The title is misleading, but you will find that the best way to deal with people who do not know how to behave is simply to get them out of your life. The ideas we are given about making relationships work when someone is not treating us correctly tend to assume that we need to be with that person. You can usually read someone to tell whether they are capable of improving the way they treat others, and sometimes the other person is willing to improve. Regardless, you need to always have a sense of control over what people are around you. Every person in the world is not compatible with you to be your friend or even worth your time.

When you deal with someone that is toxic or narcissistic, never lower your guard around them. They will always promise to do better or to treat people correctly, but mistreatment is the default way for them to interact with other people and even the world. You don’t get positive interactions from these people because they do not have anything good to give you in a social interaction. These are the kind of people who calling them out just makes them laugh and treat you worse because they know exactly what they are doing. Get out of their lives and let them be condemned to the hell of their own personality. You will feel so much better when they are gone.