Gosh, I am just so sorry to any and everyone who has had to endure the experience this character has clearly been through for years before this. It’s so deeply upsetting to think of the shame and trauma that many millions of people experience on a daily basis for something as rote and innocuous as a thought of attraction. I know that I am incredibly privileged to have never even considered this particular conduit for hurt, and my heart breaks for those who live with it each day. You deserve love, and you deserve it on your terms.

Disclaimer: Your experience is your own and I am not trying to tell anyone how to feel by sharing my own here.

Feelings of shame around my attraction to women went away the second I came out as a trans lesbian. I don’t have a lot of words to share which explain why I felt that shame - perhaps a fear of being creepy, or wanting to be with women but not wanting to be the “man” in the relationship - but that experience is a clue that I look back on post-coming-out as a sign that I wasn’t cishet. Had I been equipped with the language and therapeutic resources to analyze that more closely, I may have come out sooner.

This comic and all of these comments are mega wholesome.

i like girls and i fucking hate myself for it 😎