But even some progressive gay white men say they feel alienated from a movement they see becoming more radical, particularly online, where the tenor of conversation is often uncivil.

Hot take: I’m honestly, vocally sick of settler-gay men who demand that you handle them with kid gloves when their entire existence within the community is an existence blanketed in microaggression at best, when they’re not being outright full-on macroaggressive about someone that ‘doesn’t fit their “preference”’; and I’m genuinely glad people are starting to talk about it.

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    For real, it seems to be an awful idea to be anything less than perfectly polite as a trans woman. I do it sometimes by accident and sometimes deliberately… I haven’t experienced anything bad relating to this on here yet, but generally people lose their shit at you so quickly and with such ease.

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      I find the acceptance of my womanhood is often entirely contingent on my being subservient. I have actually had people hold that over me basically daring me to stand up for myself so they could revoke my womanhood.

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        They do hate it when you speak up for yourself, kinda like how misogynistic men in general seemed to hate it when women spoke up for themselves. Hmmm…

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          Yeah but cis women generally don’t immediately start getting treated like a man so it’s extra special.

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        Yeah, it’s the perfect example of transmysogyny. Women already suffer from being seen as “difficult and bossy” and “overly emotional and melodramatic” where a man showing the exact same behavior would be viewed as “assertive” and “strong-willed”. As a transfem, this gets compounded by our womanhood being doubted and made conditional in the first place.

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        When ever I communicated with my abusive ex to try and establish boundaries I was basically doing violence against them. I wish I was joking. Everyone else was okay with this because they were a wittle innocent afab flower with more mental illnesses than me.