It is absolutely true that you can be a genuinely kind person and do what is described, but this does feel like the exact thing a certain member of my family would use to justify their continued toxic, and incredibly narcissistic, behaviour.

As always, it’s about balance and frequency. If you are setting ridiculous boundaries as punishment for imagined wrongs, or justifying bullying behaviour as “speaking your truth”, or taking your bad mood out on other people, then maybe you’re not a kind person.

I guess what I’m saying is that kind people will have done these things, but arseholes definitely do them too.

But you can also be a bad person and do all these. Basically all these are just being a person.

🐢 do crime

This can be used for bad things