First, I am a late diagnosis, so if some of my terminology is offensive please tell me, assimilation is hard.
On the the point, I have been noticing a pattern, I am in a number of allistic or mixed groups, online or in meetup type spaces. I am trying to expand my social circle, and I have nearly always been alone.
Is it typical amongst nurotypical people to respond to a question with need for information questions and then, when they realize that (and I don’t know which) they’re not interested or they can’t help they just move on, not explain that they can’t help or aren’t interested?
Oh, yeah, totally. They’ll hijack a conversation and steer it to something else if they sense the rest of the group is also fading in attention.
i’ve seen it done to break “group tension” regardless of the legitimacy/validity/earnestness/context of the conversation