Hello, I(31M) guess I will begin from the start of this relationship. I became friends with Kay(24F) who is a is an ENM relationship with Jon(24M). Kay and I really hit it off and began being intimate. Fast forward to a couple weeks ago. While Kay and I were chilling Jon came home and was so upset he could barely contain himself. Kay’s demeanor changed as well. I just ignored it. The next time I was going to chill with Kay, she couldn’t because Jon needed to “apparently process something”. A week later I met up with Kay and she said she was overwhelmed and couldn’t hang out as often. I just took it at face value. I haven’t seen her since. She continues to text me, and insists she wants to see me. I am definitely confused, but should I be worried?
Yeah that’s a huge red flag. Ethical non-monogamy can only work if everyone is open and honest with each other about things, and it definitely sounds like K and J are not on the same page on this
I totally agree. Communication is key is making them work. I have been shut out of any communication regarding the status of their relationship. I know nothing. I Should I attempt to establish some communication? Or should I just fuck off?
Honestly it sounds like they need to work their stuff out before you should try getting involved at all, you’re just asking for trouble it sounds like
Yeah. Probably.