• stephfinitely@lemmy.world
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    This must be an man experience. I get asked by what feels like every employee if I need help when I go to Home Depot.

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      I’ve definitely noticed a difference since transitioning to female when I go to a hardware store I get asked if I need help way more than before.

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        That’s such an interesting experience I’d never thought of. Now I wonder if that’s bias, attraction or friendliness.

        Experiencing a day in the opposite sex would be fascinating. I’m not even sure I’d notice things like that, they seem so subtle.

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          It’s a combination of all of the above, I’m sure. Probably some sexism, but it could also be that now that I’m happier I project a friendlier attitude making me more approachable. I guess I’ll never know!

          I’ve definitely noticed that women are muuuuuuch friendlier toward me since transitioning which is really nice. Other women meet me eyes instead of averting it and usually flash a genuine smile (not a sheepish one like before), and will usually say something even if just a quick “hi!”.

          On the other hand, men are much more standoffish and weird around me, which I’m totally fine with lol

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      Yep. I get ignored and my wife gets asked non-stop.

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      My wife and I tag-team when going to home depot or Lowes. I’ll check isles, and she’ll find assistance faster than I ever can. It’s expedited our trips there significantly

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      I’m normally used to being ignored and wear headphones, so when people suddenly ask me if I need help I’m always not ready. Usually can’t hear em either. Why are they looking at me amd moving their lips?