• StellarExtract@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    What stage is no pronouns in bio because I don’t want to explicitly tell people to use he/him even though that’s what I use day-to-day because that would feel like a defeat somehow, but I also don’t want to tell anyone to use any other pronouns because I’m not 100% sure whether I actually want them to and it would also out me to everyone as considering it?

    • AcidSmiley [she/her]@hexbear.net
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      1 year ago

      The best way to make sure whether you want other pronouns is to try them out, and there’s ways to try that safely and without outing yourself to anybody irl. If you want to play it safe, you can just make new accounts for that, lurk in trans spaces for a bit, people there are usually very affirming to each other.

    • Cromalin [she/her]@hexbear.netOPM
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      1 year ago

      i always encourage everyone to try out pronouns if they’re thinking about it, and i tend to stick to they/them for anyone with no pronouns listed or undecided anyway