I’ll start. Teenage me driving up the street to hang out with friends at the mall and passed my younger neighbor and his mom. When I got back a couple hours later, the neighbor’s mom was livid - confronting me for the slight. I seriously had no idea wtf she was talking about and I couldn’t convince her otherwise.
Yeah I don’t think he is projecting in that sense, but I do believe he has really bad abandonment issues, that is making him “see” things that aren’t the case, maybe to have a reason to push me away before I hurt him, too… I’m not sure what to do, he’s so convinced that I’ve betrayed him already, and even if the offense is not real, the pain clearly is, and I’m not sure there is anything I can do to reassure him. It’s so painful to watch (beyond the hurtful accusations…)…
I appreciate you looking out for me, friend!
Sorry to hear that. I know what that’s like. The best you can do is keep up the reassurances and hope he can make it through this rough time. Encourage him to go to therapy and maybe get medication. In the end, change is up to him. Good luck.
When a woman tells her man he is the only person she’s attracted to it’s the opposite of reassuring.
This is reassuring: “Yes I find him attractive but I’m committed to you.”
This is definitely not reassuring: “No you’re the only man in existence I find attractive”
You could tell him who else you’re attracted to. Men tend to find honesty reassuring.