And that might just be why so many of us get confused. We notice when we don’t know. Most neurovanilla’s just seem to think they know (and strongly believe so :p)
Yet few can actually explain what they’re doing or seeing. So it’s probably a spectrum of how insightful people can be. Neurodivergent or not
So, about half the inane banter that you hear NTs doing, where you’re like, “why are they talking about such stupid crap?” is actually an exchange and reinforcement of cultural norms. If you don’t participate in “small talk”, then you are missing the very subtle cultural indoctrination.
I mean … small talk is often like an initial authorization step or health check. You ping the server “are you up?” before sending your large payload. If the server is down or under too heavy load to handle your request, you probably want to know sooner than later.
Yep, even when they don’t like 'm. I’ve learned a lot of them don’t dare to diverge from those norms regardless. It appears to be a mixture of fear and lack of understanding that locks them into certain behaviours.
Gotta have some bravery to set standards for yourself
And that might just be why so many of us get confused. We notice when we don’t know. Most neurovanilla’s just seem to think they know (and strongly believe so :p)
Yet few can actually explain what they’re doing or seeing. So it’s probably a spectrum of how insightful people can be. Neurodivergent or not
So, about half the inane banter that you hear NTs doing, where you’re like, “why are they talking about such stupid crap?” is actually an exchange and reinforcement of cultural norms. If you don’t participate in “small talk”, then you are missing the very subtle cultural indoctrination.
I mean … small talk is often like an initial authorization step or health check. You ping the server “are you up?” before sending your large payload. If the server is down or under too heavy load to handle your request, you probably want to know sooner than later.
I think your mom actually received my large payload last night.
Yep, even when they don’t like 'm. I’ve learned a lot of them don’t dare to diverge from those norms regardless. It appears to be a mixture of fear and lack of understanding that locks them into certain behaviours.
Gotta have some bravery to set standards for yourself
To be fair, being different is historically dangerous
True true, and it still is to an extent. Just not as lethal