Tbh I didn’t even think to pause everything to sit him down and explain what it means to be non binary. It became kinda clear from talking that he thought gender=genitals and at that point I kinda wanted out, but he was pushy and persistent and I felt unsafe to tell him about either my gender or wanting to leave. Kinda just froze, idk how else to explain it. And he intentionally stealthed me, too.
I am so sorry that happened to you. You remember the term “fight or flight” response? They have added “freeze” to the mix.
I don’t know if you need to hear this, but your reaction was normal and it doesn’t mean you deserved it. It sounds like you’re trying to reclaim your autonomy in response to something traumatic, and that’s ok. Sorry someone tried to make you feel shitty for it.
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Tbh I didn’t even think to pause everything to sit him down and explain what it means to be non binary. It became kinda clear from talking that he thought gender=genitals and at that point I kinda wanted out, but he was pushy and persistent and I felt unsafe to tell him about either my gender or wanting to leave. Kinda just froze, idk how else to explain it. And he intentionally stealthed me, too.
I am so sorry that happened to you. You remember the term “fight or flight” response? They have added “freeze” to the mix.
I don’t know if you need to hear this, but your reaction was normal and it doesn’t mean you deserved it. It sounds like you’re trying to reclaim your autonomy in response to something traumatic, and that’s ok. Sorry someone tried to make you feel shitty for it.
That sucks. I’m sorry for you. I’m also sorry I prompted you to recall it in more detail
It’s a damn shame you have to recount this to a stranger on the Internet who’s being a creepy asshole