Awhile back I got ring tattoos for my five best friends, they got to decide their designs and they now decorate my right hand fingers. Before even considering doing it, I asked my wife if she was okay with the idea, and she was very supportive and actively encouraged the idea. Now one of my friends wants to get a corresponding tattoo, and she is adamantly against it. I feel honored that someone would want to, but now I’m questioning having them done in the first place.

Am I the asshole?

It’s my best friend, she knew we were a package deal when we started dating. I told her countless times, he’s not going anywhere.

  • Aarrodri@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    8
    ·
    1 month ago

    Nta. Friends are precious and honoring it it’s wholesome. Is she just upset about the tattoo or is there something else going on?

  • pugsnroses77@sh.itjust.works
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    7
    ·
    1 month ago

    i say NTA, your body, your tattoo. your friends body, their tattoo. have you asked her what about it makes her so upset

  • idiomaddict@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    5
    ·
    1 month ago

    I can get that it’s weird to her that you and your best friend are getting ring tributes to each other, as that’s pretty culturally common for spouses and not really anyone else. It does seem like there might be more to it though, if she’s got such a strong response. Is there a history of tension between them?

    If this is completely out of nowhere, I’d lean NTA, but I feel like there’s missing info (not intentionally on your part) that might make this NAH

  • theskyisfalling@lemmy.dbzer0.com
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    2
    ·
    1 month ago

    Why would you be an arsehole because your friend wants a tattoo?

    It is weird your wife is “adamantly against” someone else getting a tattoo and doing what they want with their body but it doesn’t really sound like there is any arsehole behaviour happening. Yet.