• VinnyDaCat@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    Look, I am a big believer in attempting to educate other people and better the world around you by trying to change harmful or hateful outlooks, but I also realize that some people cannot be changed. Trying to engage these types of people in real life is just putting yourself in danger. Engaging them online is fine but there’s a limit to how long you should spend having dialogue with someone who could probably argue their irrational viewpoints for weeks on end without stopping.

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      I try to keep an open mind and engage in conversation when I can too. Tbh the fallacy I find to be the most irritating (and probably most common) is when the person already presupposes your entire argument and crafts straw men arguments against you. To me, that tells me they’re just unwilling/unable to listen to me and listen to my actual arguments. No use in debating someone who doesn’t even know what they’re debating against.

      Having to keep saying “but that’s not what I said” every time I try and explain myself gets exhausting after awhile lol

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      Yep.

      My entire family is conservative. They eat up every drop of shit from the shit fountain. I can disprove anything they give me in about five seconds, and no matter how absolutely cratered their opinions are and decimated their egos in an argument, a week later, they’ll start right back up again with some insane shit they heard online.

      It’s like trying to patch a dam made of mud.

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      15 hours ago

      “Their irrational viewpoints” because our viewpoints are all rational. Unfortunately, that’s what everyone who’s hard-line on their views and won’t consider discussion with others seems to think.

      The meme posted here comes off as super dumb to me, not only will we not listen to anyone else, we are so closed minded that we won’t even listen to people who agree with us but also see where the other side is coming from.

      Lemmy is a strong echochamber for leftists sadly, it was my hope that Lemmy would have a thoughtful userbase who recognises both sides are equally problematic for their extreme views and hard headedness.

      Majority of it is bullshit anyway, biggest joke on earth is the political system, the world functions because of all the people who don’t give a damn and get on with living their lives and being useful.

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        You are in a queer friendly community talking about “… recognize both sides are equally problematic for their extreme views …” That is incorrect. The most leftists are not pushing or perpetrating the genocide (or removal, or subjugation) of my people (the queer, disabled, and other social minorities). I know from experience the same is not true of the right. Just like the OP and like many of the comments, I do not tolerate “both-sidesism” because it is not an equal scale. The right creates a platform built regressionist practices. I think some leftists are annoying, but at least they aren’t trying to kill me.