• Maeve@kbin.earth
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    3 months ago

    Yes, I noticed that as well. And I’ve come to understand something about karma, which is really just life lessons. We keep doing a thing, and somehow it’s never wrong until someone does it to us. After that, it’s still never won’t when we do it, because “it was different/they deserved it/they’re weird,” any number of self-justifying excuses we have ourselves in perpetuating cycles of abuse, all the while not understanding why it keeps happening to us all the time! Stepping off the hamster wheel is not only understanding that if it’s wrong when others do it to us (who are justifying what they do to us with the same weird excuses), but also stopping the behavior.

    We will stumble. We will fall. But if we really understand that bullying is never acceptable, and we really understand that “hurt people hurt people,” then we take steps to address in ourselves the same behavior we find so easy to address in others. Will people still be mean to us? Probably. It gives us opportunities to stretch and grow, along with those who may not be as far along. If we resist, the cycle continues, until every person decides to step off the hamster wheel.